Catchy title, huh? This may not be my usual type of post but this issue is near and dear to my heart. I have talked in the past about my mom’s struggle with breast cancer. She lost the battle over 26 years ago.
My beautiful mom
I was a young girl of only 8 years old when my mom died. Because of my mom’s rocky history with her breast health (she ended up getting a mastectomy to try to prevent the cancer from spreading further), I have formed a not so healthy relationship with my breasts. In fact, they sort of terrify me. My mom was 36 when she passed away and I will be 36 next year. To me, my breasts often feel like a ticking time bomb, just waiting to go off.
A picture of my mom and I after getting my hair brushed. The same thing happens every morning now with my own daughter.
Most of you know October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month and to most women it’s a month to bring more awareness to breast cancer, to remind women to get their mammograms regularly, to celebrate those who’ve survived, and remember those who’ve lost their lives to breast cancer. But this month isn’t just about that. It’s about reminding women to embrace ourselves and recognize what makes us beautiful, unique, and what defines us as women.
My friend Courtney from the eclectic lifestyle blog Fry Sauce & Grits started a movement called LOVE YOUR BOOBS, LOVE YOURSELF. When I heard about it, I knew I wanted to jump on board! Courtney is a bra fitter, bra educator, blogger, and is passionate about women issues. I was lucky enough to meet her at Snap last year. She is a genuinely passionate, inspiring woman!
She created a video where she interviewed a group of women and asked them questions about their relationship with their breasts, how they’ve experienced breast shame, how they feel the media depicts breasts, and how we as women can come to love and accept and love our breasts.
“I find that most women have a hate relationship with their breasts and that makes me really sad. They’re either small, large, lopsided, saggy, or too wide, and it made me realize that we need to stop this breast and body shaming because our bodies are beautiful and powerful,” Courtney said. “I hope to inspire women with this Love Your Boobs, Love Yourself video that to completely love ourselves as women, we need to love and accept our boobs. There’s a direct relationship between our self image of and the relationship we have with our breasts. Breasts don’t define us but they are definitely a part of us. I want to bring awareness that this dysfunctional relationship we as women have with our breasts and with our bodies are directly stemmed from what the media portrays to be what is perfect and the ideal of beauty. I want to push the message that we aren’t defined by our breast size and how we as women are defined by something greater.”
Me along with a group of other blogging women from different backgrounds, religions, ethnicities, ages, shapes and yes breast sizes have decided to come together and to love ourselves and our breasts! This is hard for me on so many levels, but I really feel like it is so important, especially being a mom to a young, impressionable little girl myself.
A picture of my mom and I at the Bahá’í House of Worship.
You can join in this movement too by sharing a picture of yourself and type what you love about your breasts and what defines you as a woman! You don’t need a blog either! Just tag your photo with #LoveYourBoobsLoveYourself on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and search the hashtag to see who else has joined in.
As I mentioned above, I don’t have the healthiest relationship with my breasts because of my mom’s breast cancer. I am terrified that one day, I too, could get cancer and leave my two beautiful children behind. But, I also have other issues that are purely superficial. I am not a large chested girl, by any means. My smaller breast size has always been a source of discomfort for me in my appearance.
However, as I have become older (and hopefully wiser), I have definitely learned to love my body a little more. And I think being a nursing mom to two kids truly helped me to find some peace with myself. I am still so amazed with what the female body can do!
Below are other brave and beautiful women who are sharing their stories of breast shame, breast love, what they’ve learned from their breasts, what they mean to them, and how we as women we can learn to love our breasts and ourselves more! So don’t stop here. Get clicking around, its a blog hop! I hope as you click around (and YES pin these different posts!) you will feel the importance of women loving themselves, the empowering effect sharing each of our voices will inspire others in some way.
1. Fry Sauce & Grits 2.Allred Design 3. Ashlee Marie 4. Lucky Blogs 5. A Ruffled Life 6. Feel Great in 8 7. Tara Made It 8.Dreaming About Someday 9. MOMentity 10. Dana Ohlsen Photography 11. Life in My Heels 12. Diary of a Brown Eyed Girl
13. Utah Mom Connection 14. Lionesses at the Gate 15. Laura’s Crafty Life
Are you ready to share your story? Make sure to tag your picture with the hashtag #LoveYourBoobsLoveYourself and @courtney_frysauceandgrits to participate in this powerful movement to inspire women to completely love themselves!